We are energetic beings. First, before we were born, we were pure light and then through our own intention we developed into matter. It is the same with all human matter: light, energy, then body.
If you trust this to be true, as I do, then you realize you have great ability to affect how you live. Many wise souls have written about how to affect your experience here on Earth. These range from the esoteric (spiritual) to our physical and mental body. Look for these types of teachings that speak to your heart or resonate with you mentally.
Transmute the things that hold you back